Anger, hurtful memories….the reality that things did not pan out…..the surge of madness that swells up after years or months of giving out the best of your heart. Only to be Rejected.
In hindsight, one may have said to herself (or himself), ‘What wrong did I do?’ or ‘What is it about me that this is happening?’ There are so many questions that one may ask or state in an attempt to rationalize their experience. I would beckon to this person to reevaluate your part, your involvement & your status before you met the significant other. What was so significant about the other in your eyes? Did you remain true to you? Have you ever remained true to yourself? What exactly did you compromise and why? Any unhealthy patterns? Identify them. Exposure of harmful patterns is a must for change to take place.
Many times we don’t know what our status (and value) is as a single portion or entity. We don’t know what we are made of. We don’t know what’s in our soil and so we connect with someone and attempt to grow, develop or germinate with them when we are not whole ourselves. The heart of every soul is deep. It is of absolute importance to be whole in order to recognize or comprehend wholeness. Fragments can and will appear attractive. But with the weight of life itself, fragments are not enough. There are people who will live off of your vulnerability, lack of understanding, unrealistic expectations and fantasy-mindframes and end up making a very good living for themselves.
Yes, a so-called attraction that you aid and abet, whether you are aware of it or not, can turn into usery, degradation and unhealthy dependencies, desires and plainly stated, a bad experience. It can leave you feeling depleted and embarrassed in so many ways: emotionally, socially, mentally, financially and so on.
Wholeness is Green and it is where you want to be! Each leaf on your tree needs to be shining and bold. Invite yourself to step-outside-of-self and take-a-look at your condition. How? Prayer. The Creator knows YOU! He knows what He created. Get close to Him. Open the book (Bible) that you thought was just full of stories and allow your eyes to be opened to the real deal & a real Heal! You want answers? Then, DO NOT walk away from yourself ever again and return with trash and ashes.
Self-discover. Park your car. Take up a hobby that you claim there is no time for. Breathe! Ask God to open your eyes so you can begin understanding some “things that are under the radar.” Ask God to send a protective and insightful circle of people to fence around you during this process. And Began the process, finally. Allow life to enter back in. Cuddle up with peace. Become best friends with contentment. If you remain true to you, which is a genuine learning process, you will find joy seeping back into your soul. Don’t rush the process. Get a journal and write your thoughts down so you can look back on the growth. Or voice record your feelings and upload to a Dropbox or digital storage app.
Mind made up?
It may take some time to be determined. Do what is necessary to get there. If you are ready, make sure to view the Before photo of you.
And check out the After!
Don’t be discouraged! It is possible and On the Way with a determined mindset!
One thing, I love about your After is that not only is your Garden of Eden flawless and alive, but there is a bridge! A bridge means so much. It can even represent healthy instead of scorched. After true wholeness you won’t allow trash to crossover into you. Remember, the heart is like soil, and it produces or births what is poured and planted inside it. Guard your heart and refrain from giving it away until you know what you want and need and who is suitable for you. (Only in the solidified relationship between you & God, will this truth be clarified.) He didn’t just create you, but He created marriage and all relationships. And He did not create relationships to be toxic, but on an individual level, we must do our part to avoid harming others.